Have you ever found yourself stuck in an endless argument that is making no progress whatsoever? And when the argument is finally over you come to the conclusion that you were saying the exact same thing as your opponent? Only, in a different way?
This is called a "Vicious Agreement". The Roommate and I are notorious for having "Vicious Agreements". We will argue for hours sometimes to the point of raised voices and wanting to vigorously shake the stupid out of one another. What is worse is when one of us notices what's going on. If it's the Roommate that notices, he can never get it across because for some reason or other even though he's brilliantly smart he seems to have a hard time putting his thoughts into words. Only spoken words though, I seem to be able to follow him better if he were to write it down. Maybe that's a way to avoid future Vicious Agreements. I'll have to remember that.
Anyway. So the Roommate notices and tries being like "Nyall you're saying the same damn thing I'm saying" but for some reason those words aren't on his tongue and the point of what he's saying tends to get lost in the complexity of phrase he chose to use.
On the other hand, sometimes I notice. I do the opposite. "Dude we're saying the same thing!" But for some reason it goes unnoticed and he'll continue to drill his opinion into me until something more interesting comes around.
If any of this is sounding familiar (well, not to state the obvious but...) you're not alone! Unfortunately I am not here to offer a solution to your vicious agreement. However I am here to discuss with you how I feel they reflect society today.
If you think about it, it's pretty sad really that communication between two individuals has become so hard to do. It's a good indicator that either education has become so poor that we literally can not process our thoughts into words. Or, that self righteousness has become so intensified that we subconsciously refuse to accept the profound musings of someone else, whether we agree with them or not.
The reasons I draw these conclusions?
Take a normal debate for example. Two people discussing, or possibly heatedly arguing two different sides of a topic. In this case the two conclusions that I have deduced could probably be applied if one wished. However they would be perfectly moot points due to the fact that the people are actually arguing.
So the reasons, or reason, I draw these conclusions is because the people involved in the Vicious Agreement aren't actually arguing. They're just failing to understand (or rather, listen to) the other person. To me, this is unsettling. Maybe I just over think things, maybe I just think too much in general. But either way (which in case you haven't noticed is actually the same way) I feel like this is how it reflects society. What have we come to that we manage to find arguments in agreements.
I realize that I seem to have a very negative outlook on society and humans in general. Which is pretty false. I just notice weird things and think about them too much. I don't write these things in negativity I prefer to look at it as writing questions that can't be answered. I find that this lets me get my sometimes odd thoughts out, and at the same time get some feedback from others who enjoy wasting time thinking about things that one wouldn't normally think about :).
And with that, I will leave you for today. Enjoy. And comment!
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